Mrs C reminded me today that my annual appraisal is next week. I’d rather refer to it as our wedding anniversary. But either way, we’re coming up on 17 years. A thriving marriage is difficult to maintain. Which is why we should spend more time celebrating our anniversaries than our birthdays. There are many things that can lead to disagreements in marriage. But the most likely cause of stress in your relationship? Fights about money.
Despite the title – I don’t actually have any useful tips for making friends. I’m just here to provide some commentary on how ‘making friends’ is a minefield once you have kids. Those reading without kids can enjoy the substantially reduced complexity of finding and hanging out with people you like.
Last week I burned some money on Amazon on purchases that I had to hide from Mrs C. It felt wrong until I read a survey showing over 50% of Americans buy things they hide from their friends and family. Turns out, I’m just keeping up with the Joneses.
Our family took a sabbatical in Spain two years ago. I recently wrote about how to take a sabbatical, but I didn’t provide much background on the challenges we faced in taking ours. Or whether a sabbatical could change your life.
Obviously I mean other people’s kids, not your kids. Of course.
Actually, I mean ALL kids. Mine and yours. There are varying degrees of savagery, but in reality, they are often selfish little primates on power trips. Grandparents will disagree with me but that’s because they’ve forgotten how awful we were when we were two going on eighteen.
About 2 years ago we decided to take a year-long career siesta in Spain after leaving Zambia, and liked it so much that we stayed. Although there’s a lot less siesta involved these days. Some close friends asked recently how they could take a sabbatical.
As a family of 6, we’ve learnt the importance of keeping things simple. That’s not to say we’re always successful, but we try to apply it to all areas of our lives, particularly personal finance. ‘Keep it simple’ was what came to mind when I spoke recently with some friends looking for financial advice. Let’s call them Peter and Susan* (I’ve just finished reading the Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe to our kids).
A common lament I hear from fellow cult advocates of the financial independence (FI) movement is that they didn’t discover financial independence until later in life. I can relate, having come across it in my 40s.
We tell ourselves that if we’d come across these principles 20 years ago, we’d be financially independent and pursuing our passions like writing a family blog having the time to be better parents.
Hands up who wants to learn about personal finance? Kinda pointless question as I’m sure you’re ALL putting your hands up. And by all, I meant our three readers. If we count both our mothers.
In all seriousness, surveys like THIS one, show that at least half of us struggle explaining concepts like interest and pensions. And this is hardly surprising given the lack of education we get on these topics at school.
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